Acting "White" for an Interview
Updated: Sep 9, 2019
"...I would always hear these different opinions from people about 'acting white for an interview' or 'acting black for my friends...'"
My mom is European-American, and my dad is Belizean-American, so I am biracial. It was really interesting growing up because my parents are polar opposites given that my parents grew up in extremely different cultures. My mom grew up in a predominantly white suburban area and my dad grew up in the Bronx of New York. So because of the way my parents loved each other and other people it was easy for me to grow up around different people around me.
The challenges for me being multicultural is this question that I was always asked as young woman and even until this day. “Are you more white or black?” For me that was a very uncomfortable question because I was really struggling with the idea of am I white or am I black? I had an identity problem. I would always hear these different opinions from people about “acting white for an interview” or “acting black for my friends” which didn’t help me with my journey to figuring out who I am. But I had to come to the realization that I am both, and I learned to accept that!
Another big challenge was figuring out my hair! My mom has straight hair and my hair is super curly so for a long time my mom would not know how to do my hair. For 2 years straight I just wore a ponytail because I wouldn’t know what to do. I got to this point where I begged my mom to let me get my hair relaxed, I was just so embarrassed of my hair and how different it was. Honestly, it’s still a challenge but I’ve come to love my hair now and the exciting adventures of the different things I can do with it! I’ve embraced what I have and in part it makes me who I am.
One thing I want to share with everyone is to find the beauty and joy in any and all situations. When someone is different than you find the interesting things that make you different and choose to embrace and accept all those differences and choose to respond with joy and love.
Emily Hamilton | Human Being
Written by Jaylon Harrison